Kids today can be affected by. It doesn’t happen just on the playground anymore. Whether they are in the bathroom or on the Internet, bullying can occur anywhere. No matter what you and your family tell them, speaking up about it isn’t easy. It usually has been happening for several months before the parents find out. Though it’s not surprising if your child remains silent about being bullied at school. There are still several signs of bullying for you to tell if they’re suffering from it.
A Reluctance to Go to School
It’s normal if your kid is unwilling to go to school after a long break. However, what isn’t normal is after going to school for a few weeks and all of a sudden, your child starts to feel “sick” right before their class! Pay more attention to your kid, if they frequently make up reasons to keep them from attending school. Maybe there is a bigger problem than just normal sickness.
With young children, watch for recurring excuses to stay home, such as aches and pains, or frequent calls from the school requesting an early pickup. On the other hand, with teenagers, check-in with teachers periodically to monitor attendance, as this age group is more likely to skip classes.
Change in Behavior
In addition to physical symptoms, a change in a child’s emotional behavior can signal a problem. Parents should observe their kid’s mood after school, paying attention to whether or not they come home in a good mood. They can hide their feelings but not their body language! So, with just a bit of attention, we’re sure that you will notice the difference.
Having Trouble Sleeping
Bullied kids will get worried about getting picked on at school the next day, making it difficult for them to sleep. And, this can also lead to nightmares. So, having trouble with nightmares frequently could be signs that your child is anxious as a result of being bullied.
In addition, if your child seems more tired at breakfast or just looks more worn out than usual, those could be signs they’re having trouble with sleeping. Also, exhaustion can show up in other ways like an inability to focus or maintain proper hygiene. All of these can indicate anything from sleep issues to bullying and depression.
Their Grades at School
If your kid normally does well in school, but now you notice that their grades started to change. There must be a distraction behind the decrease in their grades because kids always want to do their best in tests. Therefore, it could be a sign as kids who are being bullied often have trouble staying focused on their schoolwork.
Shifting in Friends
While it’s normal for kids to have new friends from time-to-time. Parents should watch out for signs that their child has no friends to talk about or their friends no longer want to come over, for example. Loss or changes in friends could be signs of bullying, especially in adolescents and teenagers. Similarly, hesitation to hang out with friends could signal that bullying is taking place within their friend group. Parents can stay privy to shifts within their child’s group of friends by connecting with other parents in the group. That way, it’s easier to notice when your child is left out of birthday parties and events.
Begins to Bully Others
This is a disturbing sign that’s often a natural consequence of being bullied. The victim may find a way to release their anger on weaker targets. In some cases, a bullied kid will drop the “victim stance” and become aggressive toward others instead. For example, acting out against siblings could also be a sign of prolonged bullying. Also, they can become uncooperative with their parents. Have intense emotional reactions
Obsession or Withdrawal from Devices
If a child’s bullying takes place online, you might notice one of these 2 things: an over-attachment toward electronic devices, or a complete withdrawal from them.
If it’s the first case, your child could get agitated if you try to limit their usage. With the other one, you might find the child difficult to get ahold of. We recommend setting up rules and guidelines for online engagement when kids first set up social media accounts. Your kid may be reluctant to tell you about cyberbullying because they are afraid that the device will be taken away. You’ll want to show you’re not going to take anything away. Instead, you want to help solve the problem.
The New Kid
Students without support from the systems are at the highest risk for bullying. That puts recent transfers or “new kids”, at the top of the list. So, if your child is about to start at a new school, call and ask the school if they can assign someone to help. Even having one person for your kid to fall back on can help them assimilate more seamlessly with their new peers.
Tips and Advice to Help Your Kid with Bullying
When dealing with a bully, parents should move from talking with the teacher, principal, and the bully’s parents. With the teachers, you should ask for their help in looking out for bullying behaviors. Also, make sure to note specific places such as the lunch line or the playground.
After knowing who the bully is, we suggest meeting with the other child’s parents, make sure you do not sound accusing. Don’t immediately put them on the defensive. Try saying our kids are having problems and what can we do to help them get along better? In the end, the most important thing is to keep your own child healthy and safe.
It’s important to have conversations with your kids about bullies and inappropriate behavior early on. Talking about this can also teach your kids to be respectful and have empathy, even when someone is mean to them. On top of that, kids often avoid talking with their parents about bullying because they are afraid or ashamed. Therefore, to make your child more likely to open with you, speak frankly about the feelings of embarrassment they may feel when being bullied. You should share examples of bullying from your own life, and encourage them to talk about their feelings with you and your partner. Also encourage your children to look out for their friends, taking notice of bullies mistreating others as well. If you have any questions or you want to share your experience to other moms, feel free to talk about it in the comments!